Burnout, then, is not simply an individual failing or a byproduct of working too hard. It is a signal that something in our relational ecosystem needs attention.
Burnout and the Myth of Self-Reliance
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Relational Boundaries
Boundaries: A Place of Meeting, Not Separation In the framework of Relational-Cultural Therapy (RCT), boundaries are reimagined. No longer something that you might "set" on someone, they become a...
The Central Relational Paradox
Relational-Cultural Therapy combats the central relational paradox by creating relationships where individuals can bring their full selves into connection, fostering healing through mutual empathy and authenticity.
One True Thing
One True Thing offers a way to navigate challenging conversations and disagreements without sacrificing integrity, shutting down, or lashing out.
Essentially RCT
These essentialist beliefs not only oversimplify gender but create a social ladder where some are seen as ‘more correct’ or ‘normal’ than others, impacting how we connect with each other. RCT thrives in complexity and challenges. It encourages us to explore tough concepts and dismantle social hierarchies, including those born from essentialist viewpoints.
CARE Assessment
The CARE assessment, by Dr. Amy Banks, is a practical way to apply Relational-Cultural Therapy to your life by answering 20 short questions.
Supported Vulnerability
Supported Vulnerability is a foundational concept in RCT. It refers to the conditions that allow emotional risks within a relationship, trusting the other person to respond with empathy and acceptance.
Therapish
Not everyone needs therapy, but everyone benefits from healthy connection!
Mutual Meltdowns
We are tired. We need healing. It’s likely we’ve lost people, dreams, cherished ways of being, and not been held in our grief because we were all too busy surviving. Slow down. It’s impossible to rush wellness. Lean into each other. Allow ourselves to mourn together, to mutually hold each other. Trust that allowing mutuality leads to healing. We are in collective pain, and the antidote is messy, authentic, mutuality.
2021-2022 Relational Cadre
We have a few openings for individuals or organizations to join our first ever Relational Cadre! If you join as an organization, you can select representatives to participate and share their...
Feeling Love From a Distance
One of the tools we’ve been trying to use, is Amy Banks’ idea of Positive Relational Moments. In her book, Wired To Connect, Banks defines PRMs as moments you felt “safe and happy in another person’s presence.” Returning to your PRMs can slow or even reverse a downward spiral of stress and isolation by activating healthy neural pathways. It’s not always easy to pull up a PRM on demand though, sometimes we could use a reminder– a picture, an email, a journal entry, or, now, an Appreciation Effect campaign.
Contagion
It is difficult, if not impossible, to sustain a contagious calm without filling your own cup. Even as we isolate, we need each other.